We are surrounded by negativity everyday, some we can ignore and some we cannot, some caused by events and some caused by people.
The negativity that comes from people is sometime the harshest and most hurtful. Those people can even be your immediate family, your mother, father, brother, sister, or grandparents. You are told to accept that those people are doing what is best for you or that those people only want what is best for you, but in reality they only want what is best for them.
It’s a type of control.
Psychological manipulation can be defined as the exercise of undue influence through mental distortion and emotional exploitation, with the intention to seize power, control, benefits and/or privileges at the victim’s expense.-Preston Ni, M.S.B.A. “14 Signs of Psychological and Emotional Manipulation”
It’s manipulation that disables you to grow and be free to be who you want to be and who you are.
Manipulative people are everywhere.
People seem to justify and make excuses for their manipulation, by saying that are only looking out for that person or changing the direction of conversation to make the person, who is being manipulated, feel like they are at fault. Even when an apology is asked, it’s an apology of manipulation. “Oh, I’m sorry that YOU feel that way,” or “I’m sorry that YOU misunderstood.”
It also seems like the consensus regarding negative family members is that you cannot avoid them. Why not?
Perhaps you cannot rid yourself completely from family, but you surely can avoid their negativity in your life. At some point in life, the “children” need to rid themselves from the influences of their parents and seek a future for themselves, at least in my opinion.
In a world full of manipulation, maybe it’s time to take our individual lives and rid ourselves from the negativity that only seeks to control and imprison our lives.
Personally, I have immediate family members that think that they know what is best and know all. They believe that what they preach or say is correct and that their way is the right way. When their opinion is challenged they will scoff at other opinions or beliefs and negatively diminish that person’s idea until they leave or concede to their opinion.
For a long time, I’ve dealt with negativity. Whether it was from physical abuse and mental abuse to manipulation of guilt and lowering self-esteem. I have felt like I have been someone who has failed countless of times and would never amount to anything.
I’m done. I’m done with that. I am who I am, and I will do things in life that benefit me.
Sometimes that is seen as selfish, but why is caring for your own self mentally and physically wrong?
Negativity will not control me, nor will negative people.
Thank you for letting me speak my mind, let loose the negativity, and become free.